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When you're boyfriend or girlfriend leaves, it's a sad day in your life. We've all been there before. It leaves you sitting at home all alone with your head in your hands going, "I wish I knew how to get my ex back." I'll be honest with you- it's a long and sometimes painful process. But the fact of the matter is that it can be done. So buck up, mope and get it out of your system, and let's start working on getting them back.

Step 1 - Admit Total Loss

This is a big step that some folks never take. You know, the guy at the bar who still dreams about his ex from 10 years ago, or the girl that can never move on from her ex-sweetie. These folks are still in the denial stage and it can last a lifetime. First, admit "total" loss. He or she is gone, and that's that. Even though you're going to get them back, it's important to first realize and feel that it's fully over. Once you're there, you can effectively start getting them back.

It's an important step because you don't want to appear desperate. If you go to your ex begging, sobbing, pleading, kneeling and making a sorry fool of yourself, it's not going to work. This is a big mistake lots of folks make. You don't want to be desperate or phony. In other words, don't start buying flowers or presents and laying it on too thick. This is another big no-no. Both begging and present-buying tell your ex that you've not accepted the way things are. You're still living in a dream where the two of you are together, and it's time to wake up.

Step 2 - Write Your Thoughts In A Letter

I have found this to be really effecting in getting an ex back. It's the "opening move" as I call it. What it does is show your ex that you've accepted the reality of the situation and that you're sincere. It involves writing a letter. After you break up, you really want to communicate with your ex. Anybody that's been there knows what I mean. Anything will do just to establish communication. You text them, email them, call them late at night, "drunk dial" them... and all of this drives them further away because it's not genuine.

Here's what you do: Handwrite a letter telling your ex that you've accepted that it's over. You understand now and you're okay with it. That's basically all you need to say. It's simple and non-threatening. After you break up with someone, you need space, and this heartfelt message from you gives them just that.

Step 3 - What Went Wrong?

The next step is to find the reason things went bad. You've got to be totally honest with yourself. This is a hard thing for most of us to do. It often means accepting blame, which isn't easy. But, there's got to be some reason he or she left, and you've got to figure it out. What are the main reasons? They need space, there's no romance or spark anymore, it's gotten boring, there's somebody else, and big life changes are the main reasons people split up. The really tricky part is that the reasons your ex gives may not be the real ones. They may even be deceiving themselves!

This step may take some time, but keep working on it. You can't make a fresh start and keep your relationship going if you don't understand what went wrong. For those of you out there saying, "I don't know how to get my ex back!" and crying alone at home, get started right now on fixing things up and getting them back. Start now before it's too late, and you'll be on the road to happiness again.

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