Flowers Kim Morrisville

The first thing you think when the love of your life walks out the door is "Why did this happen?" Sometimes the answer is staring at you in the face- other times it takes some soul-searching. Understanding what caused the downfall in your relationship could be the very thing that could save it.

Time To Reflect Get a pen. Can you write down the reasons behind your split? Maybe you can, maybe you can't. Too often couples part ways without owning up to the full story. Men and women think very differently (do I even have to remind you?), so it can tough to uncover the truth.

Remember, this is IMPORTANT. Think about that person. What do you KNOW about them? What makes them different than anyone else you know? How a person was raised and what they experienced completely impact who they are today. And chances are, dwelling on this issue can get you to your answer.

You may be thinking... Okay, I'm still confused. My ex didn't cheat on me or lie to me - so the reasons aren't quite as clear. We all may be "different," but we're not that different. Most women, and I'm talkin' 80-90%, share very similar wants, needs and desires. Certain social norms have been instilled in us since we were children that stick with us forever. Let's take a look at some common factors which cause women to pack their bags.

Why Women Break It Off More than anything, women long to feel special. Hopefully this is not news to anyone! Almost all women suffer from some sort of insecurity, and it's up to their partner to help them forget about it. Think about when you two first met. You gave her flowers, didn't you? You took her out for romantic evenings or wrote flirty cards.

I'm telling you, you can never stop. Maybe tone down, but never stop. Women of all ages like to know they're appreciated for all the things that make your relationship or household run smoothly. Most of the time, it's the littlest things that mean the most to them. A simple "Wow!" when they walk down the stairs on a random Monday morning. Or a special email just to say you're thinking of her.

Women like to be listened to. They're not always looking for an answer, just a loving ear. They want to know they're important enough to turn off the TV and actually hold a conversation. Look, there are going to be times when the romance isn't crazy-awesome. But that's when the friendship part takes over.

Ignoring her will give her the go-ahead to look for greener pastures almost immediately. The strong ones can hold out while their men treat them like a drinking buddy for years on end. But most will start seeking another man to fill that void within 2-4 years.

You have that list of break-up reasons filled out yet? Great. That's the first step toward getting back together with your ex-girlfriend/wife. For more information on how to work toward a reconciliation with your ex, check out .

Serena Hunter is a young professional living in Southern California with her reunited love, Ryan Taylor. Having experienced a painful break-up 2 years ago, Ryan & Serena reunited and are now using their experience and knowledge in the ways of relationship psychology to help others.

Reuniting couples has become an overwhelming passion for Serena, and she hopes to bring nothing but good tidings and sound advice to each reader. To hear more on their story and learn how to reconnect with your OWN lost love, please visit