Walkway With Flowers

As the saying goes, "breaking up is hard to do" and you know somewhere deep inside you want to get your girlfriend back. Depending on the path you choose, wrong choices can lead to disaster between the two of you. By carefully choosing your approach, there is every possibility you can get your girlfriend back. Forget what you "think" will work, more than likely you are going to miss steps and head down the wrong path. Read on and learn 6 parts of a successful plan to win your girlfriend back.

1. Completely understand what went wrong in the first place.

Before you can rebuild your relationship with your girlfriend, you need to know what caused the breakup. Trust me, if you know what did not work, you will have a better chance of getting it right the second time. Also, don't assume or place blame at this point. A union or breakup takes two to build or destroy as the case may be. You are not immune to the issues that might have pulled you two apart. Knowing what was not working does not necessarily mean you have to fix something. If one side or the other thinks they have to fix something, it usually will lead to apprehension and avoidance. For starters, just know what pulled you two apart.

2. Are you sure that getting back with your girlfriend is right for you?

Think back through your relationship and note what мейд your girlfriend special to you. Being able to appreciate what really мейд you happy will give you a more genuine stance when you do communicate with her. It is hard to not be sincere if you can look back and visualize her many qualities that attracted you to her. If you are reading this and want to get back with her, there are likely some aspects of her personality you cannot live without. Find in yourself what they are. If there is nothing, then maybe you are not meant to be together. What sets your girlfriend apart from any other woman out there?

3. How you present yourself - inside and out, is critical at this point.

When you first met, you probably were very aware of how you looked and how you acted. This is not the time to get lazy with appearance - you want to be attractive to her. If you are always portraying an "oh, poor me" attitude, you are not going to attract her either. You need to be neat and tidy. You need to be positive and optimistic. The last thing she want to deal with are your "issues". She will attracted to a confident, focused mate more than someone that just does not care. Think about what you can do to be the partner she wants and needs.

4. Watch what you say, think or feel.

More than likely you will probably still have mutual friends. These friends might want to take your side of things and talk down about her. Do not follow their lead! You have got to be positive about your girlfriend and never talk trash about her. As was stated above, it takes two - some part of your breakup falls on you as well. Gossip spreads like wildfire and anything you say - positive AND negative - will get back to her. If she knows that you talk about her in a good light, she will see the good in you. When your so-called mutual friends choose to be negative about her, let them know in no uncertain terms that they need to stop and you do not want to hear it.

5. Through the whole process, communication is key.

Being male, communication is not a natural trait - guys have to work at communication. Not only will she appreciate your communication, she will respect you for it as well. Important note: you have to be careful about communication.

Writing some sappy letter, sending flowers or placing demands just bring out the desperate side in you, gives her the impression you cannot deal with the problems at хэнд, and let's her know you cannot stand on your own.

Communication needs to be about everything - not just the relationship. Be her friend at first - treat her kindly, listen to her, don't judge her. Open communication in a relationship reflects maturity. Being mature signals to her you are ready to deal with the reasons behind the breakup. Apologize (swallow that pride, slugger!) as soon as you can - sincerely and honestly. Accept her apologies when she offers as well. The bottom line: you both have blame for the breakup - accept you part of the problem. Work together to a solution. Guess what - you can't come to a solution with one-sided communication.

6. Slowly but surely wins the race.

If you want to win her back, you need to understand that it will take time. After all, it is a new relationship in many aspects. Out of a break up comes the realization that you did not know them as well as you thought. Many times the bonds you have when you make up are stronger than the first time round. Not only do you have past knowledge of what worked between you, now you have understanding of even more, once re-worked, that can work between you.

You might want to start out slow. Call and ask her out on a date. Keep the conversation light - you are starting over and learning more about her. As things progress, more intimate conversations and activities can take place. Once you get to that point, let her know you love her, appreciate her, trust her, and like in the first moments you first met, are passionate about being with her. When you both feel like no one else can ever measure up to the other, your relationship can be successful.

Ultimately, to get your girlfriend back is going to take some hard work. And being realistic, you two may not be able to make it work. However, if you truly love her and she can see you are honest and genuine, if she wants the same, you will win points with her. Rushing in is not the solution, it will not be an overnight fix. Remind yourself regularly what you love about her and why you cannot imagine your future without her. Be mature and avoid desperation and an "it's all about me" approach. Good luck and best wished, here is to hoping you get your girlfriend back.

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