Flower Pot Wedding

Oops! So, it's the day of your anniversary or it's late the night before your woman's birthday and you realize that you still haven't found a gift for her.

In all likelihood your intentions were good. Maybe you had some ideas and just didn't make the time to go shopping or what you had in mind was beyond your budget or your great idea fell through.

It could be that your partner is difficult to buy for. She might be particular in her tastes, she may want something that you just can't afford or she may have already gone out and bought the things that you know she wants.

It could also be that you want to really WOW her with your gift and this is freaking you out. You've worked yourself up into a lot of insecurity over this. You want it to be special. You want her to be touched deeply by your gift...and you worry that you won't be able to evoke the response you want from her with what you have in mind.

For whatever reason, you find yourself at the last minute searching for a gift for your woman. You still want it to be something she will treasure and feel moved by and you're possibly panicking a bit because you haven't found that yet.

At this point, you might be afraid that the worst (in your estimation) will happen and you'll show up with no gift at all!

If you're down to the wire and you still haven't found the perfect gift for your woman, take a deep breath and slow down. Try this advice...

Get into a "loving feeling." I don't care how rushed you feel about getting a gift for your partner, the first thing I urge you to do is to touch in with the loving feelings you have for her. Dashing into a series of shopping malls or stores is only going to leave you overwhelmed and probably with some lame present.

Take a few moments to sit down and breathe. Clear your mind of any thoughts about finding the perfect gift, projects you've got to do at work or pressure you feel regarding anything at all.

Call to your mind an image of your woman-- make sure this is an image that brings up feelings of love and appreciation within you. Intentionally bring up a memory of you two connecting and having fun together.

When you really get into a "loving feeling," it is easier to know what to do next. Chances are, you're going to feel more relaxed and at ease with this whole shopping and gift-giving process.

You'll undoubtedly be more inspired to buy, create, make or give her the kind of gift that you've been searching for.

Take the time to choose your gift with care. Keep that loving feeling at the forefront of your awareness as you pick out a gift. Set aside any beliefs you have that you should spend a lot of money, buy from a certain store or whatever those "shoulds" are for you.

Again, continue to remind yourself of the purpose of this gift. It's probably to express to your partner how special she is to you and how much you love her.

Allow yourself complete freedom to choose a gift that will best reflect your intention and your feelings for her.

This might mean that you buy her something extravagant and expensive and it might mean that you make her a gift from items you already have at home.

She's probably not going to appreciate you running up the credit card just so that she can have a pricey piece of jewelry. Instead, she may be thrilled to receive something like a picture of the two of you in a nice frame.

She might still want a diamond encrusted bracelet, but she'd also feel pleased to be pampered by a home-cooked dinner, bubble bath and massage compliments of you.

It's a lovely treat to receive something that feels luxurious from time to time too. If you are able to splurge occasionally, this could make a positive impact on your woman as well.

Choose carefully and mindfully.

You know best what you truly can and cannot afford at this time. Above all, don't just pick up a card, chocolates and flowers from the grocery store on your way home and expect her to be WOW'd.

The lack of feeling and time that you spent on that kind of gift will show and it will most certainly fail to impress her.

Give whatever you choose with presence and sincerity. Even if you do buy your woman a card, chocolates and flowers from the grocery store, make sure that you give them to her with presence, sincerity and feeling.

You can be thoughtful in the type of card, chocolates and flowers that you pick out. What are her favorites? Show that you kept in mind what she prefers when you мейд your selection.

Tell her that you love her. Be honest if you struggled to find the "perfect" gift for her and let her know that she is special to you. Make sure that she understands that this gift is only one expression of your feelings for her.

The real gift is your consistent attention, your love and your willingness to create a closer relationship with her.

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